I wrote a book called The Taste of New Wine because I couldn't find a book that talked about the reality of the situation and how we were dishonest and afraid.

Religious work is one of the best ways to keep from facing your reality if you are Christian, if you are using it to calm the pain, because that it what all addictions are, attempts to cover the pain of this spiritual disease.

The whole Bible is the story of men and women trying to get back to God, to overcome that sin with sacrifices, good works, sermons, prophesy, witnessing, giving all kinds of things. It never worked.

No gentleman ever discusses any relationship with a lady.

Feelings are like a color chart that God has given us.

A spiritual person is also in touch with his or her own reality, feelings and thoughts, and the reality of the people around him or her, not projecting on them.

I am six feet tall. I am not supposed to be afraid.

I have learned to like myself for the first time and to have some serenity.

A lot of us have jobs where we need to give people structure but that is different from controlling.

Beneath all of these addictions is this disease, this control disease which is the mark of our society.

I am too old to think.

I learned that the purpose of the Twelve Steps is to do the will of God.

I was taught that pain is bad.

If God is in a life, it doesn't have to be big to be happy and to be important in His kingdom.

Intimacy, as I am using it, is sharing my reality with you.

My only hope to receive love is to let you see who I am, then I may believe you.

Pain is the doorway to wisdom and to truth.

The primary symptom of a controller is denial, that is I can't see its symptoms in myself.

Then one day I read about a book that said that the church is the only army that shoots its wounded.

There never was a social change in America without angry people at the heart.